Make openmp optional, allow for dylib mac library output

[cbecker]

This PR allows compiling LightGBM with a compiler that doesn't support OpenMP, which is the case of some clang versions shipped with MacOS. It also adds the CMAKE option to create a dylib library instead of a .so one.

The main change in the C Code is the new header file utils/openmp_wrapper.h

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