Document GRPC settings and default values in README

[karenyrx]

Description

Document how the GRPC settings should be used and add the missing grpc.netty.max_msg_size setting to the README.
A corresponding PR in the documentation-webste repo will be created later on as well to reflect these changes.

Related Issues

#16787

Check List

• Functionality includes testing.
• API changes companion pull request created, if applicable.
• Public documentation issue/PR created, if applicable.

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[karenyrx]

Let me know if a changelog entry is required for this. Thanks!

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[peterzhuamazon]

Approved but asking @andrross @finnegancarroll to check as well.

Thanks.